Many people I respect misunderstand addictions: they believe they’re addicted “to” scrolling, vaping, overworking, etc.—instead of recognizing addictions as strategies.
Because of this, they’re surprised when their attempts to curb addictions don’t work: they either fail, and come to believe that the “lack willpower”, or they succeed at dropping one addiction, but find themselves picking up new ones:
The Locally Optimal view of addictions is that addictions function as anesthesia. As strategies for managing suffering.
Like, if you’re in pain, it’s often wise to employ some method of anesthesia.
…which also means that if you’re in pain and you forcibly remove your addictions (anesthesia), either you’re going to get overwhelmed, or you’re going to find another way to numb.
Addictions help with suffering because anesthesia helps with suffering.
Therefore, the way to unlearn all addictions simultaneously is to remove the underlying suffering. With suffering, there is a sort of “addiction whac-a-mole” that happens. Without suffering, there is no need for any kind of anesthesia.
Addictions are one of my preferred measures of suffering and internal conflict. If you have addictions you dislike, there’s probably suffering in your system. It’s common not to realize that addictions are present to anesthetize deeper pain. (I’m sorry.)
But this is a good thing.
In my research, I’ve specialized in working 1:1 with people who are situated such that they can remove underlying suffering without risking terrible consequences. But many people aren’t in this position yet. For these people, addictions often are the best they can do to manage the current suffering.
This is why I get concerned when I see advice that blindly recommends people tear down their addictions. Hey, Chesterton’s Fence! All things considered, addictions like scrolling can be some of the best copes for many people!
(Note: The most virtuous copes are community and relationships. The problem is that they’re also the least convenient.)
Meanwhile, when underlying suffering disappears, you’ll see addictions disappear without using willpower:
“On an average day [before our work together] I might do around six to eight hours of work and then five to six hours of just going home and vegging out in some form... watching YouTube... And [since then] I do it a lot less. A lot more of it is just talking to friends or having thoughtful conversations.” —alignment researcher
(Until our 3mo follow-up, I didn’t even know he’d had addictions.)
Have you ever noticed that you didn’t get addictive urges during the times you were happiest? — in a past role, in a past relationship, around people you love, while on vacation, after meditation or psychedelics, when younger, when life was more stable, when you felt differently about yourself… Perhaps it was because there was no suffering for which you needed anesthesia.
Addictions are anesthesia
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